Friday Five: 5 Ways to Surprise Yourself & Build Your Self Worth

Hello again!

Nice to see you.

Thanks for all the positive vibes on yesterday’s post! You are wonderful.

Which brings me to today’s topic! (How convenient)

I want to share with you some thoughts I’ve had about self worth lately.

Our self worth can be based on many things – our upbringing, the people we surround ourselves with, our attitude, looks, confidence, personality traits, jobs, purpose, interests…and more. Big players for me = who I am as a person, the quality of activities I spend my time on (job/free time/extracurricular/fitness), and the variety of things I’m experiencing.

I’m not sure if it’s the lingering of winter or what, but some days (this past week has been good with all the excitement) it seems like I’m turning my wheels and repeating the same motions over and over.

Since a major part of my self worth, like I mentioned, is based not only on who I am, but what I’m doing and experiencing, it’s important for me to be learning, challenging myself, exploring – and I think that part of me has felt a little stifled lately.

That can lead a girl to feel kinda bummed, ya know? A little lackluster in the ol’ self worth department. Do you ever feel that way, too?

The good news is, there are things we can do that are in our control to feel good about ourselves when our self worth levels are dipping a little lower than normal! That’s what we’re focusing on right here right now!



What I’ve realized over the years is that sometimes, no matter how strong of a “self worth foundation” you have, you need to shake things up, take matters into your own hands, and surprise yourself to feel those happy, energized, self-lovin’ feelings again!

The following five actions are simple and effective things that continue to work for me when I need to build up my self worth some!

Try these and you just might be surprised about how awesome you really are. 

1. Learn something new

Guys, there are so many options for learning out there. Podcasts, eCourses, webinars, books…it’s out there waiting for you! I feel better when my brain is engaged and I’m continuing to process new information. You could even learn a new language! Learning new things helps you feel excited about the world and sparks something within you that can lift your spirits! Don’t get stuck thinking the same thoughts over and over each day – give yourself the opportunity to grow!

I’m starting to learn more about group fitness, about marketing, and I’m also learning about the history of Scotland which I find completely intriguing (inspired by the Outlander books – so good!)

2. Start a project…and see it through

OK, I do need a little help with this one, I must admit. I have so many ideas and intentions – which is good, don’t get me wrong, but I always have a million things going at once. Eek. Focus on ONE thing and stay focused until it’s done. I’m thinking art, crafts, a blog or business task, a family activity, a house or lawn project…you name it. My fiance is super task oriented and it’s AWESOME. He’ll start something…and finish it. He feels so good afterwards and it motivates him to repeat the process with another task. Genius! I totally admire that and see the satisfaction it brings him. Be like him!

I will say, I get like this with meal prep. I start, get in the zone, and don’t stop until it’s done. It’s almost therapeutic! Find something you want or need to do – and get it done!

3. Step outside of your comfort zone

It can be pretty easy to stay in the safe space you’ve created for yourself – we all do this in certain ways. But I’m a big proponent of stepping (sometimes running) right out of your comfort zone and seeing what lies there. Maybe you are scared to try a new fitness class, or go someplace new, to network with new people…that’s okay. But doing those things that make you a little bit uneasy can offer you such a worthwhile experience. It’s going to either a) rock and you’ll be so pumped you did it b) not rock and you’ll learn that you CAN do it and survive – and maybe it will inspire you to keep experimenting. Stepping out of your comfort zone makes you a stronger and more open-minded individual. And that’s a beautiful thing.

4. Just 10 more minutes…

Of walking, running, weight lifting, reading, writing, resume building – whatever it is, pushing past that wall when you are ready to stop for just 10 more minutes can be a total game-changer. You could run one more mile! Read another chapter! While this might not seem like such a big deal, it is. I’m always pleased with myself when I go above and beyond the expectations I laid out in the beginning. Ten minutes is enough to make a big difference in what you do and how you feel!

Example = treadmill. I try and do 10 more minutes after I think I’m done. I love / hate me for that.

5. Do something thoughtful for another

Do you ever get so consumed with everyday life that you wonder how it’s possible there are people doing their own thing PLUS being such a helpful and generous presence in other people’s lives? I have friends who are constantly doing nice things for me and I wonder how they pull it off – and then try to follow their example and pay it forward. Whether it’s bringing some coffee to the local PD or fire station, creating a nice little teachers gift, offering to help a friend around the house – you can do something that will make another human feel really warm and fuzzy inside – and you’ll feel great too.

Well then, there you have it! Give these a go and you’ll be on your way to increased self-worthiness.

The way I see it, the biggest factor in your own self worth is how you cultivate the person you want to be from within. Sometimes, that can be as simple as just ten more minutes…

Remember, YOU DEFINE YOU, you’re awesome, and the possibilities for who you can be and what you can do are endless…but you’ve got to start somewhere.

Here’s to a wonderful weekend!


Wicked Healthy Wonderings: What do you base your self worth on? Or…tell me a fun project you’re working on right now.

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    • Renee
    • July 7, 2020

    These are awesome ideas for selflove and improvement. I always tell my kids when you feel bad do something nice for someone else, you’ll feel better. It’s amazing what giving of ourselves can do for others and in return for our own self worth. And learning something new always makes me feel like rockstar! Great post!

    • Andrea
    • July 9, 2020

    I think it is this time of year a lot of us get into a funk. Just now I was trying to think of things to make my weekend exciting again. Maybe I’ll start a project that I will see to the end and see me through the weekend. I do take language classes for a few weeks once a year just for something fun to do- I highly recommend!

    • Jen
    • July 10, 2020

    These are such practical steps, Ruthie, and I’ve been struggling a lot with self worth lately. A very timely post!

    • Tiffany
    • July 11, 2020

    This is definitely an awesome topic to focus on, and I need to remind myself of my own self-worth often. I usually look at where my priorities are at the moment, where I’ve been, what I’ve done, and what my happy focus is. When I realize it’s been a while since I’ve done something different, I try to learn something or go somewhere new. This is a great list on boosting up your self-worth confidence!

    • Jess
    • July 11, 2020

    I love the idea of doing “10 more mins” of something – we can do a lot in an extra ten minutes!! I’m getting my yoga cert this spring/summer as a new “project” 🙂 Happy Friday, Ruthie!!

    • susie
    • July 12, 2020

    Another fabulous post. I so agree on so many of these points. But I would also encourage people to know that seeing something through does not necessarily equal succeeding—sometimes you don’t get the perceived “right” result, but you should still consider yourself validated for seeing it through!

    • Cassie
    • July 12, 2020

    I really need to start focusing on learning more… especially with a fancy new camera and the need to learn Lightroom and Photoshop!

    • Ashley
    • July 13, 2020

    Ruthie! So positive and uplifting! I love this. I feel great when I learn something new and push myself just a bit harder — two of the things you mentioned above. This is awesome! A very happy Friday to you! 🙂

    • Pragati // Simple Medicine
    • July 14, 2020

    doing something nice for someone else always lifts my spirits. It’s so good for the soul.

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